Dear Bitchy,
Can’t you and Sassy have a huge fight again? Can’t one of you try to strangle the other to death on the living room floor with the dogs barking and your brother crying?
Can’t you treat your brother like crap, throw something at him and make him cry like you used to?
And why don’t you scream at me and call me a f***%*# b*&@^# like the good old days? Sigh. Is that too much to ask?
When I opened your top drawer today to help you pack (I was NOT snooping) and I found that folder STUFFED FULL of all my columns, blog posts and articles? It made me cry. Again.
You do love me.
And now I have to send you off to college with that knowledge deep inside my heart.
It was MUCH easier when I thought you hated me.
Nuts.
-->That is so sweet. What will Bitchy's new name be if she keeps this up?
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My boy kept every card, letter and note I ever gave him. You never know until you help them pack.
ReplyDeleteI hope she knows how much you love her too.
ReplyDeleteoooooohhhhh.....
ReplyDeletewhat if she told you she was taking the folder with her to college to use at the freshman homecoming bonfire...would that take off some that "love weight"?
ReplyDeleteJUST KIDDING! Your girl loves you....you have just been secretly hero-worshipped....bask in it...and remind her of it next time she screams out "I HATE YOU!"
This is cute!
ReplyDeleteSometimes our kids really surprise us, don't they. Even to the point of tears! You did good with Bitchy, you should be very proud!
ReplyDeleteShe knows...
ReplyDeleteYou know...
you guys love each other. ;)
Awwwww.. there IS a light at the end of the tunnel, and it's NOT a train. This is dear.
ReplyDeleteWonderful! See what an awesome mom you are?
ReplyDeleteShe could just be gathering evidence for a lawsuit.
ReplyDeleteWhat a surprise kids continue to be... you have obviously done a good job.
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Damn kids. They ruin everything. *sniffle*
ReplyDeleteI am and I am not looking forward to that day when they go.
ReplyDeleteToday, I am looking forward to it... they are driving me crazy. I'd like to stuff them in a drawer.
Damn kids! Damn beautiful, can't live without them kids....why do they have to go and grow up?
ReplyDeletePeace - Rene
Emptying the nest is so hard! My heart goes out to you! I'm not sure what I'm going to do when my son decides to move on. We want them to have wings, but wings can take them far away. The prayer is they will remember where they started out! I wish they could stay little forever!!!
ReplyDelete*tear* It is odd how college tends to improve the parent - child relationship. I recall that when I went to college my dad and I suddenly started getting along a lot better. Now I can't go the week without calling to talk to him.
ReplyDeleteI am so glad she realizes her mother's talent!
ReplyDeleteNot like that ingrate, Christopher Robbin. He hated his dad for writing (immortalizing!) him!
Love the new look. (Or maybe I've been gone so long, the look isn't new.)
ReplyDeleteOh man, you are on such a sweet sentimental roll.... Loving it.
ReplyDeleteOh man, that would make anybody tear up.. but have to say I love Rick's point of view..LOL
ReplyDeleteIT also tells me...YOU never found out what they did while you were gone..cuz now they are team mates...yepper, no fighting ..team mates for life with secrets..
Now don't you feel better :-))
One day she'll look at those columns and posts the way you do your mother's letters with the same love. That's a gift.
ReplyDeleteAWE...how sweet. And then, poof,
ReplyDeletethey're all grown up and gone.
Maybe she printed those out to remind herself why she should sometimes be angry at you and sometimes be thankful for you. :)
ReplyDeleteThat folder was a schweet find! You're gonna clear the Kleenex shelf at your supermarket if they keep this up.
ReplyDeleteOoh. My heart goes out to you. I'll be in your shoes in another year. It's not going to be pretty. :)
ReplyDeleteThat is SO sweet that she saves your work.... SEE, she's PROUD of you. And you thought all these years that you embarrassed her!
ReplyDeleteBTW, my email is now attached to my handle. Or whatever you said that one time. :-)
awww, this was really sweet. and so true, too.
ReplyDeletep.s. I love your letters to Bitchy.
it can be heart wrenching to watch them grow up...especially letting go...hang in there. smiles.
ReplyDeleteSigh, good luck with letting her go.
ReplyDeleteAw, she hearts you!
ReplyDeleteI know you'll miss her. She'll be good.
ReplyDeleteOh honey, that is so sweet-- she saves your posts. I love that.
ReplyDeletexo
May those columns and blog posts serve to remind her of your great power. She better love you right - because it will be immortalized either way!
ReplyDeleteI can hear it now--
ReplyDeleteBitchy-"I hate you!"
VM- "No you don't! You clip me! I've been clipped!! You love me."
That ought to get her going!
This gives me hope - that one day my teenager will give up the right to the names that I call him.
ReplyDeleteBut does it have to be while you're sending her off to college?? See... she has no consideration for you.
That's just awesome.
ReplyDeleteIt would be so great if we were like the animal kingdom, raise them to a certain age and then say, see ya! LOL!
ReplyDeleteOh that is sweet. Sigh..
ReplyDeleteDon't worry, Sassy will fill the gap.
ReplyDeleteThere comes a time when the kids stop thinking you're a raving b(*&h. Then you become that strange woman that lives in their old place. Eventually, you are the person they want as a friend because they can borrow money from you.
ReplyDeleteAhhhhh....probably not what you were looking for. Sorry. I'm sure Bitchy is just the sweetest thing and none of the above is going to come true.
She had a folder of your writing in her drawer? That is the sweetest thing ever. I love her.
ReplyDeleteAnd I know that when she writes you, she won't be saying "That sister of yours is terrible and not worth wasting your breath on."
ReplyDeleteThe amazing thing about the families we create is that we can correct little things through the generations, should we choose to.
Your mother did well, and so did you.
xo
Oh my gosh that really got to me.
ReplyDeleteWould it make you feel better if I told you she told ME that she planned this all as an elaborate scheme to manipulate you?
ReplyDeleteWow!! Hold on I need a tissue! So there is hope that my teen could turn into a loving daughter some day!! Yeah!
ReplyDeleteMaybe she is just using them to blackmail you into giving her money for beer at school? That would be bitchy??
ReplyDeleteOr, we could just start calling her Sniffley - no wait, that's you. We'll call her sweetie!
She could just be keeping them to write a book about you some day, so she becomes rich! Just trying to help.
ReplyDeleteBitchy's growing up. I might cry.
Sounds like the love/hate relationship you two have is weighing more towards the love side; isn't that grand?
ReplyDeleteDamn kids, just when you think you have them figured out they go and find a new way to make you cry.
ReplyDeleteIB
Why does life have to keep motoring past us, parents?
ReplyDeleteDid you notice the parallel? You holding your postcards, your daughter holding your "letters"??
xo
You give me hope that my teens may actually turn around some day.
ReplyDeleteOne stage ends, another begins...
ReplyDeleteThe best is when they start apologizing for things they did when growing up. That really throws you for a loop! Sue's stalker Mother :)
ReplyDeleteDon't worry...she'll return to her former self when she comes home for a visit...one taste of freedom, and when you make a request of her after her arrival back at home, and she'll get all huffy and indignant, like before!
ReplyDeletelol love comes in all forms .. I can't imagine college it seems so far away for me but I feel sad already :(
ReplyDeleteThis is an eye watering post! Either I am very sensitive or the whole finding a stack of your posts has just hit that soft spot.
ReplyDeleteThis is a treasure! Wow, you may be in tears for a while if this kind of thing keeps up!
Ain't love grand?
but, you're lovable.
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