The call...

Okay, so, I promise not to wallow, but I at least want to the share the story of my sister's crushing night. Then, I promise, I will be on to laughing, ranting, raving and joking. Just bear with me as I can't seem to quite move on from the memories. Here's the piece I wrote in my journal not long after the accident.

Well……… my sister got the call. You know - THE call. I think any parent of a teenage driver knows what call I’m talking about. The call that deep in the dark recesses of our heart we expect; the call that comes in the middle of a dark, quiet night; the call we dread with all our hearts.

“This is the police. Your son has been involved in an accident. We’re on our way over to your house.”

I got the call from HER the next morning.

“D. This is Karen. You need to sit down. Are you sitting down? Can you sit? Hey, Robbie was killed in a car accident last night. Yes. Yes. No, I’m not. It’s true.” The rest of the conversation, I have to admit, is a bit foggy. I remember some screaming, lot of crying, and then thinking……

“She called me herself??? How can she function?”

The horrible truth of the matter is, I realize now, you do function. You take the next breath, and time does not stop. How can that be? How can it be that the world continues to revolve? It just doesn’t seem right. Frankly, it isn’t fair, either. The worst possible thing that can happen to a parent has happened, but time keeps on.

I try to gather my thoughts. Who do I call? - my brother, my aunts, maybe just one cousin who can do the other calls? How do I tell my own kids that their 16-year-old cousin, close in age to them, whom their very close to, has been killed?

The children were told, the calls were made, and the tears began. The rest of the day is a bit of a blur. I remember crying in my husband’s arms, my heart broken for the sweet life cut short - my heart broken for the loss of a bright shining spirit - my heart broken for my sister who was bearing an unspeakable sorrow. My heart is broken, also, for the brother and sister left behind trying to comfort their parents during this ordeal.

I remember the phone calls from an aunt, and an uncle, trying to clarify the details of the accident. I remember a visit from a friend bearing coffee, muffins and comfort.

Then both of us, mothers of 16 year-old drivers, sat in my kitchen and cried for the woman we both know, we both love, the woman coping, the woman grieving, the woman who received “the call”.


Phat Mama said...

This was actually one of the first posts of yours that I read.

I am the Mama of two teenagers. My oldest, darling bitchy, has her drivers license.

I never learned how to go to quit worrying & go to sleep before she was safely at home.

I've had to imagine the pain of losing my son to his illness. Just the thought of it was an entire body physical pain.

I'm so sorry for your sister, for the entire families loss.

There are no words to make it better.

Only knowing that our family and friends are there with a hug and love makes it bearable.

Kim said...

The thought of "the call" puts the fear of God in me!

darsden said...

Losing a kid would have to be the hardest death to deal with. I could not imagine that. I fear the day I lose my folks but I tell you I fear if I should ever lose one of my babies so much more! You take all the time you need. We will be here. Don't put a limit on yourself. Do what you heart tells you to do.xoxodar

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

You are so right that is the call we all secretly expect to get. Every time they return home safely it feels as though we've dodged a bullet.

I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

cheatymoon said...

Your blog, your rules. You take all the time you need. I'm sure I'm some level it's all new and fresh to you no matter how much time has passed.

Sandee said...

How horrible honey. I can't imagine and I don't want to ever have to go through this. We have a granddaughter that's is about to get a car. She'll be 18 in July. I worry too. I don't think we ever stop either.

Biggest hugs ever honey. :)

Unknown said...

As a mom, my heart hurts as I read these words.
It is only by the grace of God that any of us are here today. What a reminder that each day is a gift.
I am so very sorry for your entire family!

Beth said...

As my father said at my brother's funeral, parents aren't supposed to bury their children.

I've thought about you and your sister often. I am so sorry for this loss.

Lora said...

I am so deeply sorry for your family's loss.

Ann Imig said...

May his memory serve as blessings for all of you.

Terrible tragedy.

Scary Mommy said...

Oy, I'd never read this before. I'm so, so sorry. How horribly sad. :(

OHmommy said...

Im so sorry your your family loss... I can not even begin to imagine. I hope that by the time my toddlers are legal to drive the age will be changed to 21.

Call Me Cate said...

I can't imagine how that would feel. Terrifying and unreal maybe. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Fragrant Liar said...

Yes, I remember getting the call from my mother, who was telling me in the middle of the night, waking me from a sound sleep, that my baby sister was gone. Car accident. The way she told me, yelled through tears into the phone . . . I'll never forget that.

Losing someone so sudden, so young, is a heartless, miserable affair.

Vivienne @ the V Spot said...

Dear God in heaven, that is horrendous. I'm sorry for your loss and worry for all of us with kids on the road.

Yo said...

a friend of mine's 16 year old daughter died a year ago yesterday. we got together and had a bonfire. i still don't know how they did it, how they did anything. how do you even BLINK after that?

it was an accident. just an accident. no one was drinking. she wasn't even in the car. she was walking on the sidewalk. it was poorly lit. just like that. gone.

Unknown said...

One of my brothers lost a young child as did one of my sister in laws, and I still can't relate because it's unfathomable unless it happens to you.

My heart bleeds.

Sherendipity said...

I have a 15 and a 17 year old, and I'm terrified.

Stephanie said...

Life is too too fragile. Blessings to you and yours ....

Amy W said...

I never read this before.... I am so sorry for your sister's and your family's loss. That is definitely "the call" that you never, never want to get or even hear about. I will be clinging to my boys extra tight tomorrow thinking about this.

Joanie said...

Oh that is heart-breaking! My condolences to you and your dear sister.

Rachel Cotterill said...

I lost one of my cousins in a road accident when I was much younger - I think he was on a bike, so not even driving. You never quite get over it.

WarriorHeartGypsySoul said...

Oh I am sooo sorry to hear of your loss. I cannot imagine how hard this must be on your entire family.

We are all thinking about you.

Randomly Elly said...

I think having your child pass before you would be the HARDEST thing to deal with. My grandmother dealt with it, and recently, our neighbors lost there 21 year old to a motorcycle wreck...you and your family are in our pryers

Magpie said...

Oh, oh, how awful.

Smart Mouth Broad said...

Although I've read this before, the impact is still the same. I don't know how your sister and you have done it but you've gone on. Please don't apologize for revisiting these posts. They are therapeutic for you and for us as well. God bless you. Sending big hugs.

Fancy Schmancy said...

I'm terrified of "the call" and am so very sorry for your sister for having to go through it. Hugs.

Anonymous said...
This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
MaNiC MoMMy™ said...

I am hoping that Chinese Anonymous Guy was expressing his deep sadness for the death of your nephew in that overly long comment he left. Or maybe it's just a copy of a Chinese menu?

Either way, found you from that crazy chick Suzy, and glad I did, and I'm sorry for your sister, for you, for your children and their cousins, and for the rest of the family that now endures life without your nephew.

Jessica said...

I just can't begin to imagine what either of you had to deal with - especially your sister. I can't imagine losing a child, when you feel as if you're supposed to go first - and I hope that I never, ever have to!

Loukia said...

This is devestating... I'm so very sorry for your family's loss... I can't imagine the pain.

Live.Love.Eat said...

OH gosh, I guess I was just meant to cry my heart out tonight. Please tell me, how is your sister doing these days?

My son is 6 and losing him is the only thing in this world that could truly kill my soul.

The Rambler said...

Oh Vodkamom.

I am so sorry for your sisters loss. For your loss.

I know this is an older post but still...((HUGS)).


Monique said...

Your brother has mentioned your blog to me on many occasions. I'm so glad that I finally took some time and found you. You haven't changed a bit! That's a good thing! This particular blog had me crying. I still keep your nephew in my prayers even though I have never met him. It is heartbreaking - unthinkable. I will continue to check in with you from time to time. Say hello to your hubby and give my love to your sister. Take care and congratulations
on the success of your blog!

Merrily Down the Stream said...

too sad. A heartache that never ends I imagine. oxoxoxox

Anonymous said...

Hi, I just found your blog and this was the second post I clicked on.
You see - I've had that phonecall too.
I was at school (I'm a teacher) and the police told me to drive home *very carefully*. Then they told me my husband had been killed in a car accident (he was at work, testing a car that had come into the workshop: he was the passenger).
Then I had to tell my 7 yo daughter and 5 yo son.
That was 7 months ago....
You are right when you say that the only way you can keep going is breath by breath. You have to keep functioning, because there really is no alternative. Especially when you still have to parent your kids.
Hugs to you and your sister....

Mrs4444 said...

Simply heartbreaking. I'm sorry for your family's loss and will pray for your continued healing.

noexcuses said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that God's love is felt in the hearts of everyone in the family.

Unknown said...

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I have this anxiety issue that I think the worst in particular situations. If I know that someone is suppose to be home and no one answers the phone I begin a series of calls to everyone’s phone, repeatedly until someone picks up. I have gotten better over the last year, but before then it was pretty bad. I fear ‘the call’. With all my heart I fear it. I’m not sure I would be able to function if I ever lost someone so dear to me. And while my faith tells me that they are in a far better place, it is still a dagger to my heart when I think about it.

Keep going, keep functioning, one day at a time.

Anonymous said...

[url=http://cialisnowdirect.com/#wllhh]buy cialis[/url] - order cialis , http://cialisnowdirect.com/#jptsf buy cialis


Silahkan kunjungi:

John said...

ferragamo shoes
timberland boots
ecco shoes
fitflops outlet
coach factory outlet
michael kors handbags
true religion
armani exchange
under armour shoes
micahel kors
true religion outlet
kate spade outlet
cartier watches
polo ralph lauren
burberry outlet
toms wedges
adidas superstars
ugg outlet
ray ban sunglasses
cheap ray ban sunglasses
coach outlet
true religion outlet
bottega veneta
air max 95
oakley sunglasses wholesale
canada goose jackets
canada goose jackets
louis vuitton outlet
kate spade outlet
louis vuitton borse
ray ban sunglass,ray ban sunglasses,ray ban outlet,cheap ray bans,cheap ray ban sunglasses,cheap ray bans,ray bans
under armour outlet
coach factory outlet online

Gaia1956 said...

interior design phoenix custom made shirts divorce lawyers movers tx mover tx partial dentures
moving personal injury lawyer fitness boots washing machine
bladder cancer

Pengobatan Liver Kronis Secara Alami said...

page that is extraordinary pleased to visit your page, I found your blog on google

Pengobatan Diabetes said...

delighted to be visiting your yard this remarkable I found your blog on google

Obat Gagal Ginjal said...

page that is extraordinary pleased to visit your page, I found your blog on google

Unknown said...

nike blazer pas cher
ray ban sunglasses sale
air jordan 11
lebron james shoes
ugg sale
dior sunglasses
uggs outlet
jordan shoes
pandora jewelry
michael kors outlet

Eye Care Softgel said...

Cara Mengatasi Rahim Kering

Terima kasih atas informasinya, sangat bermanfaat sekali :)

Vig Power Capsule said...

Terima kasih atas informasinya, sangat bermanfaat sekali :)

Gejala Bahaya Maag dan Cara Pengobatannya
Cara Mengobati Sperma Kosong
Harga Ginkgo Biloba Plus Capsule

Eye Care Softgel said...

Cara Mengobati Sperma Kosong
Harga Ginkgo Biloba Plus Capsule
Obat Tradisional Jantung Bocor

Terima kasih atas informasinya, sangat bermanfaat sekali :)

Asam Urat said...

Terima kasih atas informasinya, sangat bermanfaat sekali :)

Cara Mengobati Batu Ginjal

Cara Mengobati Batu Ginjal said...

Thanks for informations :) Very good good :)
Manfaat Daun Kitolod Untuk Mata Minus
Cara Menyembuhkan Retina Putus

Cara Mengobati Batu Ginjal said...

Thanks for the information. Once very beneficial to us all. Awaited further information.
Kandungan dan Manfaat Wortel Untuk Kesehatan Mata
Cara Mengobati Nyeri Sendi

Eye Care Softgel said...

Thanks for the information. Once very beneficial to us all. Awaited further information.
Manfaat Kidney Care Women

Pilose Antler Capsule said...

Thanks for the information. Once very beneficial to us all. Awaited further information.
Obat Tradisional Keputihan Gatal dan Perih
Cara Mengobati Batu Ginjal

Obat Tradisional Mata Minus said...

Thanks for the information. Once very beneficial to us all. Awaited further information.

Manfaat Buah Pinang Untuk Meningkatkan Vitalitas

Cara Mengobati Miom said...

Thanks for the information. Once very beneficial to us all. Awaited further information.
Agen Eye Care Softgel Medan
Cara Mengatasi Asam Lambung

Heru Hendarin said...

Manfaat Eye Care Softgel Green World
Gastric Health Tablet Green World
Agen Eye Care Softgel Bandung

Heru Hendarin said...

Harga Ganoderma Plus Capsule

Unknown said...







Devi djavu said...

Do not look past with regret; Do not also look at the future with fear; But look around you mindfully. Enthusiasm not only helps us achieve our dreams, but also makes our journey more enjoyable.
cara merawat rambut
jadwal imsakiyah 1438 h tahun 2017 m
jadwal imsakiyah 1438 h 2017 m

Heru Hendarin said...

Excellent information and very useful mas bro. Greetings from us.
we are waiting for further information.
Harga dan Manfaat Ginkgo Biloba plus Capsule
Obat Benjolan di Payudara
Harga Brain Care Capsule
Obat Maag untuk Ibu Hamil

Heru Hendarin said...

Excellent information and very useful lurr. Greetings from us.
we are waiting for further information.
Manfaat Kidney care capsule for Women

Unknown said...

ralph lauren shirts
nike factory store
kobe shoes
coach outlet store online
true religion outlet store
true religion jeans
ugg slippers
air jordan
michael kors handbags outlet
polo ralph lauren outlet

raybanoutlet001 said...

nike air max 90
jordan 4
michael kors uk
polo ralph lauren outlet
valentino outlet
ralph lauren uk
coach bags
ugg outlet
omega watches sale
ugg outlet

Unknown said...

coach outlet
nike blazer pas cher
burberry outlet sale
ralph lauren
burberry outlet store
true religion jeans
kobe shoes
oakley sunglasses wholesale
cheap uggs
michael kors outlet online

Obat Herbal Yang Ampuh Untuk Sembuhkan Radang Lambung said...

The blog structure is very good, I was really inspired by your writing

Unknown said...

Great your site. When i view your article and view your site have good.
I like your site.I have feel good in your content the best.
Article have good on cyber world.

Thank for sharing article.
judi poker

jejak aktual

video bokep

hok88 said...

I like your all post. You have done really good work.


Taruhan bola indonesia

Togel Online aman dan terpercaya

Capsa susun Uang asli


Obat Alternatif Pembuluh Darah Pecah Terbaik 100% Alami Manjur said...

Thank you for the information, hopefully useful. Success always.In waiting for further information

Pengobatan Alternatif Penyakit Konjungtivitis Secara Alami Terbukti Ampuh Sembuh Total said...

The blog structure is very good, I am really inspired by your writing, and thank you for the information.

Heni Herbal said...

hopefully the information we get on this article can inspire.
Obat Ambeien Herbal Yang Ampuh
Makanan Untuk Penderita Patah Tulang
Cara Mengobati Lambung Yang Bengkak Terampuh
Obat Sakit Mata Presbiopi
Harga Walatra G-Sea Jelly Gamat Rasa Jeruk

Tumor Rahim Jinak said...

Initial visit, I see the article that you have created is really amazing article, I am very motivated to become more bak again in the future.

Gejala Epilepsi said...

Hopefully today can be run as per my expectations, other than that I am very happy to be listening to finish the article you have made.

Benjolan Di Pungung Terasa Sakit said...

Hopefully by listening to your article, my insights increased, thanks for sharing my knowledge will wait for the latest info from you.

Obat gonore manjur said...

The beauty of these blogging engines and CMS platforms is the lack of limitations and ease of manipulation that allows developers to implement rich content and 'skin' the site in such a way that with very little effort one would never notice what it is making the site tick all without limiting content and effectiveness.
cara mengobati penyakit kutil kelamin secara alami

raybanoutlet001 said...

canada goose outlet
nike shoes
nike chaussure
ralph lauren outlet
jordan 4
nike huarache
hugo boss outlet
jacksonville jaguars jersey
pandora jewelry
nike shoes

Unknown said...

yeezy boost 350 v2
super dry
moncler online outlet
prada outlet
christian louboutin shoes
michael kors
canada goose jackets
nike shoes
ugg boots uk

Anonymous said...

Your own warm and friendly key points indicates a lot to me and extremely more to my mates. With thanks; from each one of us. Click Here To See

Unknown said...

tips membersihkan rumah dengan cepat dan efektif
Cara Mengusir Lalat Dengan Bahan Alami Yang Terbukti Ampuh
arti mimpi menggendong anak laki laki
Resep Sambal Bawang Sederhana dan Variannya
Jasa Membersihkan Rumah yang Bisa Dipesan Secara Online
Metode Merapikan Ala Marie Kondo Ini Populer di Jepang
mengenal bagian ruang rumah

Unknown said...

It is imperative that we read blog post very carefully. I am already done it and find that this post is really amazing.
obat benjolan di tangan
cara menyembuhkan tipes
obat tumor
obat ginjal bocor
obat benjolan di belakang telinga
cara menyembuhkan patah tulang panggul

Siti Solihah said...

This is an awesome rousing article.I am essentially satisfied with your great work.You put truly extremely accommodating data. Keep it up. Continue blogging. Hoping to perusing your next post.

obat sakit perut bagian atas

patsm00re18 said...

The perfect free puzzle games for you to download. Superpower your brain now! https://games.lol/puzzle/

Shristi kakkar said...

Its really a very nice blog i really appreciate all your efforts thank you so much for sharing this valuble information with all of us.
Delhi escorts
Delhi escorts

Jisoo Blackpink said...

Thanks a lot of admin already provide information, very helpful at all

obat hernia
obat hidup mimisan disertai sakit kepal
cara mengobati batu empedu
manfaat sari kurma untuk kesehatan
pengobatan cacar air alami

Obat Herbal Kaki Bernanah said...

the article is very petrifying, hopefully it can be useful and an important lesson.

Sharon Wayne said...

I want to thank Dr Emu a very powerful spell caster who help me to bring my husband back to me, few month ago i have a serious problem with my husband, to the extend that he left the house, and he started dating another woman and he stayed with the woman, i tried all i can to bring him back, but all my effort was useless until the day my friend came to my house and i told her every thing that had happened between me and my husband, then she told me of a powerful spell caster who help her when she was in the same problem I then contact Dr Emu and told him every thing and he told me not to worry my self again that my husband will come back to me after he has cast a spell on him, i thought it was a joke, after he had finish casting the spell, he told me that he had just finish casting the spell, to my greatest surprise within 48 hours, my husband really came back begging me to forgive him, if you need his help you can contact him with via email: Emutemple@gmail.com or add him up on his whatsapp +2347012841542 is willing to help any body that need his help.

dogsofcannabis.com said...

buy ak-47-autoflowering online usa uk

buy alaskan-thunder online usa uk

buy amber-oil online usa uk

buy cannabis-seeds online usa uk

buy cbd-oils online usa uk

buy concentrates online usa uk

buy edibles online usa uk

buy hybrid-marijuana online usa uk

buy indica-or-sativa online usa uk

buy labanese-camel-hash-aaaa online usa uk canada

buy marijuana flowers online usa uk

buy marijuana-edibles online usa uk

buy psychedelics online usa uk

buy sativa online usa uk canada

buy sesh-edibles-chocolate-bars online usa uk

buy shatter-wax online usa uk

buy vapes online usa uk

budder%20hash%20shatter online

buy edibles online

buy granddaddy%20purple online

buy marijuana-strains online usa uk

buy moon%20rock uk usa

buy-banana%20kush-online uk usa

buycbdfx%20hemp%20concentrate online

cbd-oils for sale uk usa

sour%20diesel for sale

shemomody0@gmail.com said...

شركة مكافحة النمل الابيض بالخبر
شركة مكافحة الحمام بالخبر
شركة مكافحة حشرات بالخبر
شركة شفط بيارات بالخبر
شركة تسليك مجاري بالخبر

shemomody0@gmail.com said...

شركة تنظيف موكيت بالدمام
شركة تنظيف خزانات بالدمام
شركة تنظيف كنب بالدمام
شركة تنظيف مساجد بالدمام
شركة شفط بيارات بالدمام
شركة تسليك مجاري بالدمام
<a href="https://el-mohandes1.com/%d8%b4%d8%b1%d9%83%d8%a9-%d9%85%d9%83%d8%a7%d9%81%d8%ad%d8%a9-%d8%ad%d8%b4%d8%b1%d8%a7%d8%aa-

shemomody0@gmail.com said...

شركة مكافحة النمل الابيض بالدمام
شركة مكافحة الحمام بالدمام

shemomody0@gmail.com said...

اتقان المستقبل
شركة عزل خزانات بجازان
شركة عزل اسطح بجازان
شركة كشف تسربات المياه بجازان
شركة صيانة سباكة وترميم بجازان

شركة صيانة سباكة وترميم بالرياض
شركة تسليك مجاري بالرياض
شركة كشف تسربات المياه بالرياض
شركة تنظيف خزانات بالرياض

Anonymous said...

Off White Outlet, Golden Goose Outlet, Golden Goose, Off White Hoodie, Golden Goose Sneakers, Designer Bags Sale, Accessories Sale

yanmaneee said...

jordan shoes
stephen curry shoes
yeezy shoes
cheap jordans
kd 10
supreme hoodie
kawhi leonard shoes

matina said...

i was diagnosed of parkinson disease 5 years ago,i started azilect then mirapex as the disease progressed in frebuary last year,and i started on parkinson disease herbal treatment from Ultimate Life Clinic,few months into the treatment i made a significant recovery,almost all my symptoms are gone,great improvement with my movement and belance,it been a year and life has been so good for me,contact them through there website www.ultimatelifeclinic.com

Anonymous said...

Very interesting blog. Alot of blogs I see these days don't really provide anything that I'm interested in, but I'm most definately interested in this one. Just thought that I would post and let you know,https://teleseryee.su

Anonymous said...

Are you Find Home Makeover Services and planning to renovate your new home? Then you will find that it takes a lot of creative ideas as well as special skills and knowledge to improve your home. Whether you want to upgrade your decor or want a complete overhaul, the interior designers and decorators at Lakkad Works, Delhi can meet your needs. During renovations, give your home a functional and aesthetic look. Their designs combine with modern furniture, unique lighting, a beautiful color scheme, and visual use throughout the space. From mid-range bedrooms and sleek master bedrooms, to modular kitchens and kids' rooms, here you'll find unique ideas for the two-bedroom home.

Anonymous said...

PPC advertising is one of the best digital marketing strategies to introduce your business to people who are looking for your products or services during their search.

With the right PPC company and strategy, you can manage more websites, drive better leads, and ultimately get more customers.

interior designers in delhi said...

Thanks for Sharing Information..
We, Renovate My Homez offer the best interior designers in Delhi which have deep analyzing skills in designing sector. It’s a Delhi based firm serving in all over Delhi NCR.

Interior Designers in Delhi NCR said...

Renovate My Homez offered house interior designing service, luxury interior designers in delhi ncr is carried out for the interior decoration of homes.

Promote Abhi said...

Promote Abhi एक डिजिटल मार्केटिंग कंपनी है जो की Delhi NCR में है हम कस्टमर को अफोर्डेबल प्राइस पर वेबसाइट डिजाइनिंग, ग्राफ़िक डिजाइनिंग, मोबाइल एप्लीकेशन, वेबसाइट डेवलपमेंट ,गूगल एड्स, फेसबुक एड्स आदि जैसी सर्विस देते है अधिक जानकारी के लिए हमारी वेबसाइट पर जाए :- Top Web Designing Company in Delhi

Promote Abhi said...

आपका स्वागत है हमारी कंपनी Promote Abhi में | हम Delhi की एक मात्र ऐसी कंपनी है जोकी आपको Affordable Price पर डिजिटल मार्केटिंग सर्विस, सर्च इंजन ऑप्टिमाइजेशन, वेब साईट डिजाइनिंग, मोबाइल एप्लीकेशन डेवलपमेंट, वेब डेवलपमेंट आदि जैसी सर्विस देते है ! अगर आप अपने बिज़नस को बढ़ाना चाहते है तो आज ही संपर्क करे Top Digital Marketing Agencies in Delhi +91-9899484839.

Unknown said...

image source replica gucci handbags why not find out more bag replica high quality my blog https://www.dolabuy.co

neahiez said...

a4f55d7n04 s5k66z1n69 z4n10m1q67 s6w33k3v74 j2u01f4o22 c7r67c9g41