5/11/09

There is some good in the world...

Yeah, I love this crazy life.  I always spend Mother’s Day a bit on edge (Motherless daughters tend to do that…) and odds are GREAT that I will cry at some point during the day. 

 

However, this day was a bit unusual…I spent quite a bit of time thinking about what I liked about my life.  Here it is:

 

1.    I love that my kids can scream at me at the top of their lungs, tell me they hate me and that I am the worst mother in the world, and still have a red-eye from Starbucks, new gardening gloves (Um, I needed them YESTERDAY people) a Sunday paper and a huge bouquet of sunflowers waiting for me when I woke on Mother’s Day. 

2.  I love that I can be reduced to a blubbering idiot over a tad bit of a problem at work, and yet still find I have forgiveness in my heart.  I can always be a better teacher, person and friend.

3.  I love that Tightwad can infuriate me at times, and yet know exactly what I need when I feeling a bit down.  He’s a keeper. (For God’s sake don’t tell him that.)

4.  I love that Golden Boy has been sleeping in a real bed for 6 weeks now.  Every.  Single.  Night.  (Yeah, he’s ten, but that’s a long story …)

 

Yeah, I’m a happy little mother right about now. 




76 comments:

Eternal Lizdom said...

Happy Mother's Day, you mother!!

cheatymoon said...

You deserve a fabulous mother's day. We all do... :-) Have a great week in the classroom, VM.

Anonymous said...

You are blessed indeed!

Dory

LadyFi said...

Life is good for you! Now, tell me how you managed to do that whole get him to sleep in a real bed thing... By daughter is soon 8 and we'll need to start practising this!

mommakin said...

My hubs is a motherless son and the first year we had a child I didn't want him to fuss about Mother's Day - figured it might be difficult for him. I was very very wrong about that. That's the kind of wrong I like to be!!!

Glad you're in a good place!

For Myself said...

Luxuriating in your blessings on Mother's Day. That's just the way to do it!

Unknown said...

Ahhh... What a nice post. I am glad you are feeling a bit better... I remember being a kid like that... (saying not so nice things to my mom... who loves us more than anything....) Bracing myself that my kids will give it back to me 10 fold...

Hugs from Norway!

WeaselMomma said...

Sounds like you've got it going on. I hope it was a happy Mother's Day.

Hit 40 said...

Golden Boy!!!! I have missed that nickname! Good one.

My 11 year old still needs someone to lie with him before bed... and he wanted to sleep in my bed when Tom was gone this weekend!!! Not going to happen!

Mrs. E said...

Tightwad? I want to use that nickname, too! You either crack me up or touch me...every time I visit!! So glad I found you!

mo.stoneskin said...

A Starbuck what?! Sounds hideous, you Americans..

Unknown said...

Am so glad you had a great day surrounded by those who love you. Whether screaming at you or not, they still love you and are just fighting the growing up thing the only way they know how.

As Cape Cod Turns said...

6 weeks in his own bed? Can you give me some pointers on that for my 10 year old?
And tightwad is a keeper? Good grief, don't let him read your blog! :)

Unknown said...

Beautiful epiphanies! I needed to hear good things today.

I am glad you had a great day with your wonderful family

Marie Reed said...

Yeah for Golden Boy! My brother slept with one of us in the family FOREVER! It started freaking me out when his voice changed and he was still bed hopping...(holy crap that just sounds bad) Happy Mother's Day!

Unknown said...

Good Monday Morning! Just spreading some belated Mother's Day cheer through the Blogoverse.

Boozy Tooth said...

HMD,VM

Jeanne Estridge said...

And one hot mama!

Shawn said...

Yay! Great day to count your blessings!

Denise said...

I know it is hard not having a mom on mother's day. But, being a mom makes up for it! I'm glad you had a good one.

XXDenise

Kim said...

Happy Day!

Malisa said...

Indeed, you have so much to be thankful for. I am amazed by your willingness to forgive and move on. That says so much about your professionalism and dedication to your kids!

Malisa

darsden said...

Awesome & big {hugs}

♥ Braja said...

Oh, come ON....my list of things I like about you would be SO MUCH LONGER than that, liddle [vodka] lady mwahhhh...

♥ Braja said...

Oh and THANK YOU for noticing i had been offline for like 3 DAYS, jeeeeezzzz....yeah right cough excuse me whistle where's the SCHNAPPS???

♥ Braja said...

and i'm only back online because God got sick of listening to my laments at missing you so much...

♥ Braja said...

ok i gotta go now...i'm busy.

♥ Braja said...

love you Miss V :)

shrink on the couch said...

sunflowers and gardening gloves -- love it. and I do love the whole up and down of motherhood. even through the hateful words you know there's love and confidence you'll stand there and take it.

Anonymous said...

I is easy to see what things you have to be grateful for when you stop and really take a look...I hope your day with your family filled your heart and heals your loss a little more.

I have not lost my mother, but we are not close...I have a bit of a hole there myself...and #1...It's amazing how I can be the worst mom, then get the most beautiful book of love from my DD...

Charish your moments...

An Unlikely Retirement said...

Great post - from one motherless daughter to another.

My 9 yo son sleeps at the foot of my bed every night. Ah, well. Thanks to your post, I know there's hope!

Kate Coveny Hood said...

Glad to hear you had a nice mothers day. I imagine that it's hard for a mom who lost her mom. Complicated feelings there.

for a different kind of girl said...

It sounds like you had a wonderful Mother's Day, and definitely know how to find the joy in little things. Glad to hear you enjoyed your day.

AiringMyLaundry said...

Yay, I'm glad your Mother's Day was enjoyable :)

Empress Bee (of the high sea) said...

my son is clean and sober and that is the best gift i have had in a long long time! happy m/d my friend!

smiles, bee
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

oh, and daughter got me presents! ps

Jenn @ Juggling Life said...

Happy Mother's Day!

The bed thing--I know. My teenage boys much prefer the couch--it's so annoying.

Maureen at IslandRoar said...

All 3 of my kids (15,18, 21) got out of bed by 11 for Mother's Day Brunch. AND the youngest made me a card that said "thanks for not being a judgmental mom." Doesn't get much better...
You're right; gotta appreciate the small stuff.

sugar mama said...

Happy Mama's Day, lady. Cheers to a new chapter. (Clink, slurp.)

Krystyn @ Really, Are You Serious? said...

Happy Mother's Day!

That would have brought me to tears, too!

DKC said...

I knew this already - but just want to reiterate that you are one of my Mom Idols!!

Happy to hear you had a great Mother's Day!

Mary K Brennan said...

Being a Mom is filled with ups and downs. Luckily for most, it's filled with ups. Stopping by from SITS.

CSY said...

I can only HOPE I get to be a mom like you when I grow up...I mean when mine grow up. I got a home made card from my 1st grader...did you know his mom is 67?!?!?! Uh...30 yrs off, honey...
Love you VM! Glad you had a good Mother's Day!

Angie Ledbetter said...

Glad your crew dredged up a little appreciation for Dear Ol' Mom! (Counting blessings may sound corny, but it always works.) :)

Lynn C Mama to 3 said...

Nothing says Happy Mother's Day better than a kid sleeping in their own bed. Ahhh... some day that could be me...

Ann Imig said...

I'm detecting a note of sunshine in Vodkaland!!!

Ash said...

Those happy little moments are glorious, aren't they?

You deserve all of those, and more.

Happy Belated Mother's Day!!

Sue said...

Yep, we all have to look at the shiny side of the coin! My grown kids and I are very close, and actually we all work together in our family business. There is usually one of us thats pissed of at another. But at the end of the day, when push comes to shove, I love all three of them and days like Mother's Day really reminds me of the joy those three knuckleheads bring me daily!
Take care, Sue

Lawyer Mom said...

Coffee in bed is always such a treat.

Sandee said...

You got mothers day right. It's always good to look at the things you like. Excellent.

Have a terrific day. :)

Real Live Lesbian said...

Happy Mother's Day! So glad you can find some good things to focus on.

zelzee said...

It doesn't get better than that!

Happy belated Mother's Day VM.

Kathy B! said...

Boy, a day late and a dollar short with those gardening gloves! I spent yesterday up to my elbows in potting soil and I could've used dome gloves too!

Glad you had a peaceful and reflective day :)

King of New York Hacks said...

WOW...sounds like the only thing you need now is some Crack !! No Vodkamom is complete without it...in fact, crack is wack !! .....Kidding, you are a pissa, and a Great Mom !!

we_be_toys said...

You know, I HAVE a pair of gardening gloves, but I can never find them when I need them, so needless to say, my fingernails were a tad gnarly yesterday!
Glad your kids know that yelling at their mom is a rare and beautiful privilege.
Equally glad you had a lovely day!
Love, Anothah muthah

Jennie said...

Glad you had a good Mother's Day - I did too. But missed my mom - it will never be the same!

Adrienne said...

Glad you had a nice Mother's Day. Have fun getting some dirt on those gloves.

Fragrant Liar said...

I love that you're a happy little mother right now. Congrats on that. :)

Smart Mouth Broad said...

Yes, life is good! So glad your Mother's Day was great.

Suzy said...

Oh for the love of GOD quit yer whinin' and carryin' on. Why didn't you just take a picture of your used Kleenex and put THAT up?

CDB said...

Isn't it amazing.. after all the progress we've made, and moms STILL only get ONE flipping day a year for it to be all about US?

Apparently, I'm all about the all CAPS.

apathy lounge said...

Glad your day was a good one. Me? I'm a big whiner, but I think I have good reason to be.

Counselormama said...

That makes it all worth it!

Laura Marchant said...

Happy belated mother's day!

laughingwolf said...

yeah, but we dads get ours next month :P lol

Liz Wilkey (a.k.a. A Mom on Spin) said...

I think I'm jealous!

a mouthy irish woman? ridiculous! said...

happy mother's day lady jane! wonderful qualities to be sure!

Captain Dumbass said...

Gloves! That's what I forgot yesterday. I have a rose bush that is trying to bleed me to death.

Beth said...

You have great kids! And a great life!

Happy Mother's Day!

Life As I Know It said...

Excellent list.

I just clicked on a link to your blog because I, too, need a martini...and I'm glad I made the click.

CSquaredPlus3 said...

You sound... better. I'm so glad. You deserved a good mother's day. Hope the glow is lingering. :-)

Charmaine said...

HEY, what are your thoughts on the Blogher business?

Charmaine said...

I dunno.

They just asked me to sign up for the ads. I didn't know if it was a scam or not.

But you KNOW if it is, I'll the pants off the bastards. hee hee

Jenni said...

You should be a happy little mother!

Unknown said...

new to your blog. Thank you for sharing a moment about being a motherless daughter. It gave me some food for though on an extra daughter that came over for mother's day. Her mom died when she was 11. She is now 27 and still single. Funny, she's an ex of my son but has been a a sort of part of our family since she also hangs out with my son and is dating his best friend. Life is funny sometimes. Anyway, I could have done more than to just welcome her...

Mimi Lenox said...

Sunflowers....ahhh...that must have been awesome! You sure do bring sunshine to all of us. Hope your day was grand.

Joanie said...

I just want to hug you right now.

And I've very proud of Golden Boy for making into his bed and staying there!

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