2/22/10

Sometimes we all need a little nap...


Dear anonymous commenter named Fail,

Something has been nagging and nagging at me these last few days. I've been blogging for almost two years now; I have written over 350 posts (OR MORE) , some of which had to be deleted due to some unfortunate events.

Of those billion posts, you have only commented twice. Both times were to "slap" my hand, and admonish me for asking people to vote for me over at that web site that shall remain nameless. Y0u went further to state that although you admired my writing, you were voting for everyone BUT me, due to my relentless whining. Well guess what? All these years I've been saying "sticks and stones" and all that, but I've discovered that words DO hurt.

I am at a loss as to why you claim to enjoy my writing, and say that you've been enjoying it for a long time, and have only commented those two times. Both comments, although not really derogatory or frightening in any way, certainly were meant to knock me down a peg.

As a teacher, and as a person who has overcome a tremendous amount of adversity on her life, I know the difference between a friend, and a fre-nemy. I try to remind my daughters every day about those who might be close to you, but in essence are trying to bring you down.

In these last two years of blogging I have NEVER insulted anyone, I have NEVER used derogatory remarks about any person and have tried to remain faithful to what is in my heart. I blog with honesty and integrity. I share true stories about my life, my wonderful job, and my crazy, imperfect, wonderful family.

Occasionally, I have asked for some votes here and there (perhaps MORE than occasionally, but who's counting. Oh wait, that would be you.) and the only person I seem to have offended is you. (And perhaps that four or five people that unfollow me each day, but that's a whole other topic.)

I have asked people to vote for me because the agent that I am (in my own mind) working with, has advised me (and may other bloggers) to work on my platform. That means, in essence, to not only hone those writing skills that I hold dear to my heart, but to broaden my readership. One important way to DO that, is to be recognized by these various sites that hold contests. Some of them are reputable and held in somewhat high esteem by those in the publishing industry.

With that being said, I hereby remove the badge from my site, and any reference to the contest. I will not beg anymore, because frankly I don't think I can take stuff like this.


You know what? I'm dang tired.



I think I need a nap.







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112 comments:

sAm said...

Don't let one person make you change who you are - lots of us like you just the way you are!! I personally liked the reminders - I'm a busy person but if reminded I like to do what I can for others. Clicking a link was my way. Please put the button back up - please?

Christy said...

No no no! Don't remove the badge Vodka Mom! Keep it! I vote for you all the time, as do many others! Don't let this dimwit get to you!!!!! STAY STRONG! STAY YOU!!!! LOVE YOU!!!

Ellie said...

Keep the badge, take a nap. Everything's better after a nap.

Lisa@Pickles and Cheese said...

Put the button back on the blog!!! Ignore, ignore, ignore....and good for you for addressing your "anonymous" commenter. Well said.

unmitigated me said...

If a student came to you and told you that someone had said something similar to what Fail Whale said, you would tell them, "That person has something sad in their life, and you shouldn't listen to what they have to say." Am I right? Who needs the Fail Whale? I wanna see that button back up.

Unknown said...

Please don’t pay attention to the haters! You are fabulous. Just do what you want, this is your blog after all. Don’t let nobody ruin your fun.
Anat

Brian Miller said...

enjoy the nap VM...i still vote for ya. smiles.

ps...dont let her win.

Anonymous said...

Hey, FAIL, F*CK YOU!!!

If you don't like it, go elsewhere. No one here will miss your negative ass.

Now, VM, put that button back as a big "STFU" to Fail. Some people are just jealous bitches.

Kelly Dawn said...

:-)~~~~~ thats me sticking out my tongue at that person for you :)

Kelly

Anonymous said...

I think you should not only repost your badge but make it so big it takes up half your page....that will teach this mean person 'fail' that they cant change you!

im very sorry someone hurt you, they are jerks!

Alan Burnett said...

Ignore the stupid comments. Everyone else does.

Carrieann said...

See, VM, you're such a better person than me. You have written 350+ posts without insulting anyone. I have managed to come up with a mere 100 or so, and I have pissed off half of the state of NC. Put the button back up!

Jan said...

D, with all of the wonderful support you receive on this site - and you do - to let this person affect you so adversely is just wrong. And silly.

PLEASE keep in mind John Gabriel's Greater Internet Dickwad Theory:

Normal Person + Anonymity + Audience = Total Dickwad.

What you have here is a Total Dickwad. Give them all of the concern and attention they deserve...put the badge bakc up and go about business as usual.

x said...

I applaud you VM and I will vote for you. Best, Pippi

CaneWife said...

I agree with the Total Dickwad comment.

I'm sorry that Total Dickwad brought you down. There are over a thousand other people up there at the top of your blog who probably feel way differently.

Put your badge back up and ignore the unsolicited opinion of someone who isn't even brave enough to post their identity.

And also nap.

And also have a cocktail.

Vodka Mom said...

okay, okay, okay. I need to listen to what I preach.

Turn the other cheek.

And go BIG OR GO HOME!!!!!!!!

Anything Fits A Naked Man said...

I'll vote for you EVERY DAY!! I completely understand that words DO hurt, absolutely, and I'm sorry this loser has made your life miserable.

I also know it's impossible to say "ignore the idiot," because it's impossible. I WILL say, that ALLLLLLL the rest of us think you ROCK, and will vote, watch, comment, do ANYTHING you ask!

Now, I'm off you join you in that nap!!

Unknown said...

Not quite sure what this is about, but damn...look at your followers!! They love you! Don't let this anonymous commenter get to you. I know..it's not fun when people do that, but what I've learned is that those who do comment anonymously really aren't worth it. Hang it there!

Sandee said...

Anonymous? You are responding to someone that won't even identify themselves? I don't allow anonymous comments on my blog. My life is good. Put your link back up so I know where to go vote for you.

I've noticed that there are some really rude people who blog. I dump them like a bad habit when they are mean. Just saying.

Love you. :)

La Mere Joie said...

VM! I always vote for you! I liked the badge- because who can remember to do stuff unless there are those reminders. I need reminders.

Tell FAIL that they are a failure. Words do hurt, but their's should'nt mean anything to you because they arent worth it.

Joann Mannix said...

PUT THAT BADGE BACK UP!!!!!! Guess what, if you don't, the mean person wins. And I always like the stories better when the good guy comes out on top.

Those creatures who live under the bridge that scared the daylights out of the Billy Goats Gruff, they're just evil hiding behind a computer screen. Don't let it get to you girl. You are a bright spot in my day.

Now, I gotta go and get some voting business taken care of. Fail, go find somebody else to pick on, someone who deserves it. I don't think Jon Gosselin's busy.

Mrs. E said...

Fail is living up to his/her name! No people skills. None. Nada. People like fail suck your energy. He/she is one of the toxic people. They poison every one and every thing they come in contact with. Ignore. Ignore. So not worth it.

Anne said...
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Anne said...

Ok... fragile, prim and proper readers cover your eyes...

To Fail - F@%! You!!!!!

To VM - We love you! And ~FRENEMY~ is going into my vault. I can't wait to use that one to teach my girls about the harsh reality of girls.

(I'm the deleted one above... I typed something wrong...made no sense.)

Sprite's Keeper said...

I love you, Vodka. Fail just failed.

Anonymous said...

Sound like jealousy to me (on Fail's part.)

Pam said...

No!!! Please put that back on! I vote for you everytime I remember (or everytime I look at your blog and then remember!) Don't let some creepo ruin it for all of us!
I hate it when one bad reader hurts everyone!

FAIL said...

One important way to DO that, is to be recognized by these various sites that hold contests. Some of them are reputable and held in somewhat high esteem by those in the publishing industry.

Excellent point - IF you had 1500 separate people voting for you. I see that you have many followers, but my guess is that you have about 50 to 100 die hard fans who vote repeatedly. That isn't recognition on the level you're aiming to achieve - that's just begging your friends to vote for you.

The posts that I enjoy the most are the ones you write from your heart. Anyone can repeat what kids say and entertain the Internet. After all, kids say the darndest things!

Cheers.

Maureen@IslandRoar said...

I want to tell you to forget her, she's not worth it. But you're the Kindergarten teacher; you know all that. And yeah, much as we deny it, words hurt.
I'm so sorry this person is so unhappy that she has to spread it around this way.
You know you should keep the button. Your agent would be the first to say that bad press is better than no press...
xo

Vodka Mom said...

Dear Fail,

you are giving me a serious headache.

Dee said...

It never ceases to amaze me how some people who are online have only one mission, to make other people miserable. It's sad that it has to happen! Eff' fail, you have a lot of readers who love your blog.

Lori P said...

OH My Gosh! You have had a rough day. Perhaps you need a nap and a drink and to ignore jerks who have nothing better to do than complain. Face it - if it wasn't about that, it would be about something else. Look how many followers you have. Look how many comments you ALREADY have. Tell this commenter in your head to go *&^% off and put that badge back on your blog! Have a nice evening. :)

This Mama Works It! said...

Never mind what hattas say ignore them till them fade away...

I live by that quote.

The beauty of blogging is that it is YOUR blog and YOU can DO or SAY anything you want.

Don't let one anonymous person bully you into changing anything about you. Just hit delete and forget about her.

Put that badge up girl and beg! In fact I will tweet for ya ;)

cheatymoon said...

I love what Jan said. It's so true.
Hang in, VM. xoxoxo

Anonymous said...

It could be worse, you could have anonymous people telling you that you're responsible for your child's mental illness.

Oh wait, that's just me.

Anonymous people suck. Hugs. And for what it's worth, I think you're an incredibly positive influence in the blogging world.

Anonymous said...

Fail, since VM can't possibly please you why don't you just go away. No one wants you here.

It doesn't matter if someone votes once, or 50 times, and it's certainly none of your business. Go write your own "from the heart" posts if missing those is what put that stick up your ass.

I like the kindergarten stories and I know others do also.

SkylersDad said...

I'm with 3 men and a lady, not only for wanting you to put the badge back up, but because she can drop the word fuck just like I can!

Well played missy, well played!

Mimi Lenox said...

I was about to say "put that badge back up there, young lady" but I see now that it has returned. Thank goodness!

I have never ever ever in my blogging knowledge of you known you to "beg". Are you kidding?!
Is she/he kidding?
You are the essence of humility!
Bah!!

Ignore it.

G. B. Miller said...

Wowzers.

Seems like someone has got their panties in a bunch.

Say uh "Fail", sounds like you ain't go no balls to speak of.

You claim to enjoy Vodka Mom's writings, yet you give her what for asking people to vote for her blog.

So what if she asks people to vote for her blog. It's her blog, she can do whatever she likes with it.

If/when you get a blog, you can run it any way you see fit.

But don't hassle someone over the way they run their blog. If you don't like it, you don't have to stay and read. There are hundreds of thousands of other blogs out there that you can read and enjoy, that don't ask people to vote for them as the best humor blog or what not.

You see, unlike you, I'm one of her old timers, having found her blog way back in the spring of 2008, when she had less than fifty followers and I was but a newbie on the block with mine.

While I may not show my face here on a consistant basis, at least I take the time to respect what she writes. If happen not to like something she writes, I don't comment. If I happen to like something, I do.

To me, you don't even meet the definition of "frenemy". I got "frenemies" and you wouldn't even make out of the realm of casual acquaintence.

Beth said...

Mean people suck.

And the word verification is fixtard. I think it might be in reference to Fail (though he/she is probably unfixable).

Lee Ryan said...

V-mom,

Despite the demonstrable fact that less than 0.00000000001% of the Word’s population reads or cares to read my blog, I have still managed to get a nasty comment; we all know your pain.

That said, even the big-wigs at NY Times and Washington Post get nasty comments: scads of them.

Though we might assume that the mountains of money and overwhelming majority of positive or at least polite comments might ease the pain, you still have to wonder how a Nobel Laureate or Pulitzer Prize winner puts up with some pajama-wearing bozo calling them an idiot. I can only assume that, like callouses, thick skin comes with practice.

So, cherish the bad comments as practice for when you have a wider readership. Maybe you can let a contract to get more bad comments: perhaps there is a company called “Loser-Ready” that can rustle-up a squad of morons to paste insults all over your blog to speed up the process. But then, Tightwad probably wouldn’t let you spring the cash for that.

I guess your only choice is to keep it up and beg away! It’ll do you good.

Keyona said...

Dear Fail,

Go away. You are bringing us all down. Ever heard of keeping comments that aren't so nice to yourself? No? Well you should. If you don't want to vote, don't. But don't you dare judge.

Vodka Mom,

Take a nap. Put your badge back up ( if you took it down) and ignore the haters. That is all...

Oh, and you got my vote. Times 10.

SEO 成果 said...

Oh, this is not a good news, please don't go, keep moving.

There're so many fans.

Unknown said...

You need to put it right back up!!!

You crack me up when you ask for votes. I love the way you do it and it always makes me laugh.

Frankly, I wouldn't even know the contests existed if you didn't gently nudge us over to the link!

It's a public service announcement for gripe's sake!!!

Where the Fur Flies said...

My take on the whole blog thing is that it's supposed to be fun. You read blogs that you enjoy, you get to 'know' a group of people that support you through their blogs, and they get to know you through your blog. If either of you don't like what you read, you walk away... simple as that. IMO, Fail should just walk on.

It sounds to me like he/she is either competing in those same competitions, or knows somebody else that is; and is being as sore loser. I'm sorry that the comments were so upsetting to you.

(And I voted for you today - for the first time - before you took the badge down.)

Stacie@hometownperch said...

Just remember, those who bark the loudest are often the most miserable. You just have to feel sorry for them and not give them a second thought. (coming from someone who appears to have tough skin but deep down snarky comments kill me). Even though I know that, it's still hard. I'm sorry some snob ruined your day (or a few minutes of it anyway).

Stacie@hometownperch said...

Fail just gave himself away by ending his post with "Cheers". He's Simon Cowel. Don't feel bad. He rips everyone.

Maureen B said...

VM - I love your blog, and when you occasionally ask for votes I always smile and vote. Thank You!

fail - you suck and YOU failed.

Sam said...

I love your blog and as Billy Joel once said, "Don't go changin' to try and please me...... I love you just the way you are!
Sorry just digging deep in my eighties root's for true references!

Zip n Tizzy said...

Don't take down the badge. Remember what we're taught in Junior High, when people are REALLY mean, Ignore, Ignore, Ignore.
Take down the badge and those of us who love you will forget to vote for someone we really think worthy.
With a name like "FAIL" I can't imagine you'll be losing much if you lose their favor. In fact maybe if you keep asking for votes you'll put them off so much they'll finally leave you alone!
Plus, it's your blog! You can write whatever you want. If they don't like it, they don't have to read it!

MahoneyMusings said...

I wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but this year has already kicked the crap out of me and I've got nothin' left after doling out what little wisdom I may have had to assorted family.

I have the one solitary hope that you have liquor in your house, or at least enough money in your wallet to go get some.

And with that I'll say, Fail, play nicely. We are have opinions, but sometimes keeping quiet about them is just the civil thing to do. Perhaps you're like me and have a really lame blog that has never ever had a large readership let alone someone voting for its popularity. You may feel bitter about this. Perhaps I do too...although I could very well just be bitter about my flabby ass and lack of liquor in the house at the moment. Hard to say. But bitter or not, cutting down someone else's blog seems to be in bad form. Let's all remember we are not in high school anymore.

Kumbaya.

Sue said...

Put your badge back ON YOUR BLOG! Fail sucks and isn't worth the time. Don't feel bad, I have an online application to be an antique dealer in my store. Today someone applied, left many of the questions blank. You know, like their name, email, ect. But they did have the "courage" to write, "f*ck you and your smart ass policies". Apparently they aren't a happy camper. We laughted all day over that one. People really can suck and you just climb a step higher and laugh at their stupidity!
Take care, Sue

♥ Braja said...

Fail needs to get drunk, get fucked, or get a life. Pick one, idiot.

Oh, hey, look!! Unlike you, my darling VM, I HAVE insulted someone :)

Well, some people need it.

Some people need it. That coward was in the room, I'd swipe her face. Yeah, I say "her," cos I know it's some nasty little bitch who needs a slap...

♥ Braja said...

And the idiot just gave you the most huge promotion possible; now everyone reading today will hit that badge and get you more votes. HA!!

Laura said...

Yay!! for you on having 2 badges! My five kiddos & traveling husband have sucked the life out of my short-term memory & have begun work on my long-term memory, too...I NEED the badge!! It's also hugely convenient when I'm nursing the baby & have only 1 free hand for the computer...I can just click it instead of having to type in the web address using a pencil to reach the keys that are too far away.

FAIL sucks (he/she even claims to with such a name)...listen to the rest of us who looove your friendly reminders!!

Mellodee said...

It would be my guess that "FAIL" is a blogger who is trying for the same award and trying to sabotage someone who is getting more votes than he/she/it(?)

What a loser!

Amy said...

ok- "Fail" can shut the hell up. EVERYONE asks for votes when they're participating in something. if "Fail" doesn't like it- STOP READING.

Your blog is amazing. I love all the stories you share. Don't let one person get to you. On the up side- if you get those negative comments, that's when you know you've made it as a blogger :)

http://howtobecomeacatladywithoutthecats.blogspot.com said...

You can take off the badge, but I'm still going to go vote for you again!

Fail... go bother someone else and leave our Vodkamom alone.

Suzy said...

I once got a horrible review in The International Herald Tribune for a show I was starring in overseas.

My sister and friends tried to keep it from me. I finally saw it and laughed my ASS off. I was in THE INTERNATIONAL HERALD TRIBUNE bitches. Do you think anyone remembers that review?

I believe as Oscar Wilde did. I don't care what they say about me, as long as they spell my name right.

So vodmomka, if s/he had addressed you by THAT name, you'd be allowed to be more pissed.

What are you going to do if you publish a book and it gets bad reviews? You will say, MY BOOK IS PUBLISHED, BITCHES.

Dooce has gotten more hate mail than any other blogger and look, hardly anyone knows her...

blognut said...

Okay - I'm not about to read all eleventy comments before me, so forgive me if I say something that I'm sure had already been said.

Now then... would you tell your kids to change what they're doing to satisfy one person when that thing they are doing is neither harmful to the universe nor the people within it?

No. I didn't think so.

Put that badge right back and tell "Fail(?)" to bite me. Or you. Preferably you, but I'll take one for the team if necessary.

xo

Sharon Rose said...

Oh dearest,
Out of all the ones I read, you have got to be the greatest teacher anyone could ask for, the best one to share your heart, your wisdom and wit and do it with such class.

Glad you were able to speak your mind. However, don't let the anonymous commenter win but shutting down the options for the rest of us to vote for or promote you.

There are too many of us who read your blog for inspiration, for a break from a world of constant pushing and pulling, just for a moment with a friend.

VM, you will rise above this a go on to do the great things you are already doing. And you will continue to be blessed for it!

I love you, appreciate you and thank you for keeping up with this blog as you continue to do the many other things in your life!

It's pretty incredible that you didn't go to the level of anonymous to sling mud! Your character is a beautiful as you portray!

Hugs and smiles from one friend to another!

Anndi said...

If Fail was such hot sh*t, it would identify itself.

Joanie said...

Fail, you are such a coward, not to put your name on your posts (all 2 of them) Do you know what you did? You just increased VM's votes!

VM, your contest is on MY blog and I vote for you every day (at least every day I'm home and have access to the internet, which John DOESN'T have, but that's a whole nother story)

So, Fail, why not grow a pair and put your name up here. Who knows? Giving us access to YOUR blog would how the maturity you obviously don't have.

SheilaC said...

I don't comment often, but I do read your blog everyday... (I tried to vote, but not sure if it worked)

I do know that words HURT.... and I am sorry that this person was able to reach out from wherever and inflict that hurt on YOU.
(not like we are making this person read your blog especially if it makes them that unhappy....)

I hope that you are able to get past this and get back to doing what you enjoy most with your blog. Reaching out to people and expressing the you inside...

take care
SheilaC

Anonymous said...

Do NOT let one bad apple spoil the entire barrel for heaven sakes. I have seen many and I mean MANY bloggers that request votes. What's the big deal... people will either vote for you or not.

SHOOO... make the bad person go away and ignore as though they/she/he were the man behind the curtain in the Wizard of OZ. Pay no attention.

And a name like 'fail'?? That says it all.

DI
The Blue Ridge Gal

Char said...

"Fail" is a real jerk-off. You rock, VM.

xoxo

Deidre said...

I personally am happy for you to tell me that you'd like us to vote for you, because otherwise I would never find out about these contests myself! So please inform me...because well, someone has to!

FAIL said...

Watch your votes go up.

You're welcome. :)

Virginia Mom said...

Seriously- who would choose "Fail" as a name? Why not "Loser" while you're at it? Based on this last comment "Fail" posted giving him/herself credit for your votes increasing due to the added drama.... who has time for this type of game? I've got some laundry that needs to be done if "Fail" needs something constructive to do..... :)

mo.stoneskin said...

You, my dear, are my hero. Seriously. Before you take a nap make sure you have a glass of milk.

Speaking of contents. Pop round my place I want you to do something AND to do Stephen King proud.

Ladybird World Mother said...

Hello, my lovely friend. You know why I come along each time I see your new post? Because you make me laugh, cry, yell out with hysteria, and generally feel warm and happy when I leave your blog. And that's one (or several) hell of a good reasons for coming along.
We all vote for you because you're so bloody funny and nice. Not because you tell us to. Although that might remind us to do it NOW!
Someone's said it already, but would you let your kids react to one asshole, when you know the rest of the world loves them? No.
LOVE you! xx

Gayle said...

Seriously...Fail..ure....that was a snarky thing to say. You cannot in any way shape or form take credit for any votes. We vote for VM because we love her....not because we do it out of spite for you. You are just mean. And mean people suck.

VM....I'm with Laura. The husband and five kids have destroyed my short-termed memory. All reminders are welcome.

Oh, ya...besides Fail...I can think for myself. Just because I am "begged" "reminded" or whatever word you want to use...doesn't mean I vote. I vote if I want to so what should it matter?

Anonymous said...

Remain your own person, true to yourself. Shit happens, you are not an employee of your blog, you own it.

Secretia

WeaselMomma said...

You said that very well, but don't ever back off of being your own best advocate. It would serve you well to continue gently reminding people that they can go vote for you.
If you don't promote yourself, who would promote you?

me in the pink said...

I vote everyday. Now I'm going to up that to twice a day!!!!! Don't change what you do b/c of one person. You can't please everyone - please yourself!

Anonymous said...

How can the voice of one be louder than the voices of many? This is a democracy you know. Forget about "Fail" (what kind of name is that anyway?)

Elaine said...

Didn't mean to be anonymous, it was me.

wfbdoglover said...

Fail - to fall short of success or achievement in something expected, attempted, desired, or approved:

Obviously, someone is jealous.

Christy said...

Yeah! So glad the badge(s) is/are back! Go YOU!

Momfever said...

Comments can be really hurtful! So after your nap, just forget all about it.

Carolyn...Online said...

You know Vodka, I've always admired that you were able to put yourself out there and ask for those votes becuase I know its not easy for you to do. But the interwebs love a controversy so this - in the end - is probably a good thing for you.

Now, do you want milk and cookies after your nap?

marymac said...

I say, put the button back up: Vodkamom, 1 Fail, 0.
Normally do not post links to my blog on others, but have to in this case because yesterday I write to an anonymous commenter as well:
http://www.pajamasandcoffee.com/?p=1938
Feel your pain. Love your blog- followed on twitter.
Haters suck- but when I got my first one, someone told me I'd arrived.
I am not sure where.
;) Hang in there!

RottenMom said...

I am so voting for you like 347 times. I plan to ignore the kids, the hub, the house and my own blog just so I can vote, vote, vote, vote, vote for you!

I might not even pick my kid up from school today, I'll be too busy voting.

Keep on doing what you do girl!

Sparkless said...

You can't let one negative comment get to you! Put it into perspective of there always being one rotten apple in the bunch. Don't let it spoil the bunch!

Real Live Lesbian said...

Fail just wants attention. Delete the comments. Anonymous commenters are anonymous for a reason...

they are cowards.

Cuz we'd all be over at their house pissin' on their porch if we knew where they blogged.

Anonymous said...

Wow. Good for you for standing up and not letting yourself be bullied. Fail is a bully.

And I appreciate the reminder to teach my kids about fr-enemies. I am just finally starting to figure this out at age 48.

Please put the link tomorrow so that I can vote for you.

sink

Paula said...

If you've caught someone's attention enough to get them to comment, that's great. If they like your work, your words, your thoughts, but don't like to see you promoting them, so what? That's one person's opinion, and, in this one person's opinion, it shouldn't have so much influence over you.

Travis Erwin said...

Want me to sit on them?

Momma Fargo said...

Well, several options here...

FUG 'em, vote 'em off the island, or ignore them and have a vodka...I like all of them combined. Afterall...isn't revenge sweet!? LOL.

jessica said...

ok i understand standing up to someone and i understand backing down because you can't take it anymore but this is ridiculous. i come here because i enjoy your writing and i only read one other blog. i would NOT even know i needed to vote for you if YOU didn't tell me.

i like that you "beg" for votes because #1 it makes me aware of needing to vote for you and #2 because it makes me feel good to be able to help out someone who makes me laugh.

so because someone doesn't like it you stop? well guess what? IIIIII (i want to make that a really big i but capital i just doesn't have any umph!) don't like that you took your badge down and IIIII don't like it that you won't ask for votes anymore. and IIIII would actually admire you more if you wrote a post of a thousand pleas for votes than to give in to a stupid commenter.
(you do realize that if you listen to me you'd be giving in to a commenter so either way you're pretty much stuck!)

oh and speaking of votes: why don't you take a vote about whether or not the majority of your readers want to know where to vote for you? i can't believe you would let the minority win. isn't this a democracy?? i say we vote!!!!!!!!!!!! do it NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!

jessica said...

ok so i should've read the other comments before i wrote mine- i see you've put two badges up!! and i see that others asked about democracy and that we've all said the exact same thing. you have more fans than foes and in the end that's all you can ask for. i think you gave herpes (the original hater who just won't go away) a giant boost to the ego by letting them know they got to you, by mentioning their fake name on your blog, by devoting an entire entry to them and by dedicating your badges to them. i am doing it now by writing about them. i bet they just LOVE all the attention. hasn't kindergarten taught you anything?they got exactly what they wanted from you. ignore the bad behavior and reward the good. sometimes hard but necessary.

R. J. said...

I just voted for you. Fail can go pound sand, and needs to learn how to play well with others. We teachers are born with thick skins. Do what you want with your blog.

jessicaiswearthatsmylastcomment said...

oh AND.....i just checked and most of the other bloggers (well 3 out of the 5 i checked) have the badge up too!! i wonder if herpes wrote to them also.

Sandee said...

Thanks for putting the badge back up. I just voted again. Woo hoo. :)

♥ Braja said...

95 comments :) Fail? I don't think so.....:))))

Ellie Belen Ambrose said...

Some people can't resist playing, the pointing finger, big bad mother in law routine. She's the type of person that would tell her children "not to try" to avoid getting hurt. She rather you sit and wait for success to come instead of going out and working for it.

She believes that success is arrogant, that striving forward is impertinent.

But what she fails to realize is that all that matters is that she admits to being a fan too. Just the thing that you are striving for, more fans. She represents a sign post to your success.

The criticism you received is her way of saying,
"Stop being popular. Stop gathering people that will like you or love your blog. Stop being you."

So whenever that happens you just smile. Because you just can't listen, or give worth, to those that tell you to stop being you.

She is feeding the "wrong" wolf (Native American story) her ego. And when you let her comments get to you, then you feed your negative wolf too.

♥ Braja said...

97 comments. I'm laughin' at the idiot :))))

♥ Braja said...

i mean, 2 more, what are friends for?

♥ Braja said...

the big 99!!

♥ Braja said...

Woot!! And there you have it: the absolute reversal of FAIL. !!!!

Did i mention the word "idiot"? I did? Oh....

IDIOT!!!! Fail! You! You're an idiot!!

Carol said...

I'm so glad that you've put the badge back up! Don't let one person's ugliness change you. You make me laugh when you "beg" for votes so I vote. You deserve the recognition so keep the badge up no matter what this crazy person comments.

Angie said...

I think Fail's panties are just bunched up around the big ole stick in their butt.

Do yourself a favor and block the idiot. It's the internet equivalent of walking away and ignoring those too stupid to converse with.

jlr said...

Vodkamom, I only found you because of a site to vote for favorite blogs! Since then, I check in every day to see what is new in your world and for the laughter or tears that are sure to follow. Thank you for all that you share and for letting us be a part of your life. Tell Whale to go get lost in the ocean!

Anonymous said...

You should tell that person to suck it! Your readers all love you. Keep being you! Dont take a button down just because 1 person complains, or even if a hundred complain. Its YOUR blog do what you want with it!!

♥ Braja said...

I love how Idiot & Fail are such similar words, and how the useless twat chose "Fail" as her ID !!! And how your comment count keeps building! And how your Babble score keeps rising!!

WELL DONE IDIOT I MEAN FAIL SAME THING, NO??!!!!

Reading Rosie said...

I always feel better after sounding my barbaric yawp! I say, leave the button and drop the idiots! Just sayin' :)

Anonymous said...

Doubbbble WOOT, WOOT! I'm here courtesy of Braja...I voted... 'cause being late to the party means half the fun is over and the button is baaaaack (insert fist pump here)

Oh, yeah, and I am tooootally following you even though I am a lead dog in every sense of the word.

I'm real. I'm live. I'm no mealy-mouthed tape worm anony-hole pansy lint licker. *snickers*

Don't get me started, see what happens?? Vodka Mom, if you need a back-up @ss-kicking Alaskan in your corner, you can call on me any ole time.

Oh, and 'Fail'? Ya put the "F" in it. For reals.

It almost feels like you were playing devil's advocate, there, on accident... and stuff.

Anonymous said...

Being a newbie blogger and not knowing about contests and voting, but definitely knowing something about the internet and faceless cowards , I can totally relate to what is going on here.

But one thing that just keeps Popping out at me and erasing all my other wordy responses ...

This persons name is FAIL ????

Doesn't that just sum it all up ?

Who uses a name that is so .... defeated.. loser-ish ..and well, descriptive of this person ... they are here to help others fail, they fail to see the positives, they fail to be understanding and fail to know when to keep their small minded ideas to themselves...

I fail to see the importance of this person and it's comments.

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