1/1/12

"Death aims only once, but never misses." (And that is quite tragic...)




I think about that specter; the one that knocks on the door deep in the night and steals your heart away.   The one that claims the people you least expect, and whisks them to heaven with nary a good-bye.


I have lived in the aftermath of his work far too many a time, and wonder at his methods.  I understand all too well that none of us ever, EVER gets out of this alive, but come on.  Kids?  KIDS?  I am a firm believer that no parent should ever have to bury a child; a child of 9, 16 or 30.   The numbers mean nothing.  The fact that it’s someone’s child means everything.



I am now wrapping my arms around my darling, amazing friend and her family.  They are preparing to bury her only boy, who after 26 years of a painful and troubled life spotted with many medical issues - had it end unexpectedly.  



I have no words for the sorrow we find ourselves swallowed by.



I have a sense of the path she is destined to travel, as I have held the hand of another amazing woman who is still finding her way.   (And Anna, my prayers fly upon wings each night and make their way to your home.)


I am carrying tissues, baked goods, love and courage in my bag tomorrow and traveling once again to that dark corner of the forest I’ve tried so very hard to avoid.  (I can find it in my sleep.  And that’s not a good thing.)








19 comments:

Live with Flair said...

You carry so many things besides courage, love, and baked goods in that glorious bag of yours. I'm so sorry that you're going to the dark forest again.

Sherry said...

(And Anna, my prayers fly upon wings each night and make their way to your home.)

Lord we pray, you know Anna how much we think of you and your lost........ we lift you up.....

Anna See said...

Oh dear God! I am so, so sorry. Much love to you, to your friend, and to your community. Thank you for walking beside me. Love.

ChiTown Girl said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll say a prayer for your friend and her family.

absees123s said...

I am so sorry for your loss. Tomorrow I will be attending the funeral of a former student, 10 years ago, who passed away this past Thursday at the age of 14. My heart breaks for her family...thank you for your post. I needed to read it.

Joanna Jenkins said...

My heart is breaking for you and your loved ones. It's awful and I'm so sorry.
xoxoxoxo jj

Dawn said...

Sending hugs and love your way. No one can prepare you for things like this...

The Pink Putter said...

Thoughts and prayers to you and your friends, as you all face these difficult days. To say goodbye to a young person is absolutely heartbreaking; you all are in my prayers.

Pseudo said...

2011 was not a nice year. Too many tragic losses. I am so sorry Vodka.

Big hugs and wishing for a kinder, gentler 2012.

So. Cal. Gal said...

I'm sorry for their loss! A child should never die before his/her parents. But think of it this way. He is no longer in pain.

Mimi Lenox said...

So incredibly sad and sorry to hear this. No words.
Wrapping arms around YOU as well.

Lisa said...

I agree... no parent should ever have to bury a child. It is wrong, on every level, and who knows why it happens? Too often.

Bless you for being there for your friend at such a tragic time. I'm sure she appreciates your support.

Rachel Cotterill said...

So sad *hugs* But I'm pleased to hear that she has you supporting her, because I'm certain you're one of the best people to have on-side.

noexcuses said...

My heart aches for your friend and her family. My prayers to all of them, and you, as you take this walk.

MaryBeth said...

Your words express it all!

You are an amazing woman and a dear friend - bless you as you care for this broken mama heart.

Japolina said...

I'm so sorry. It is terribly sad. You are a good friend Vodkamom.

Brian Miller said...

ugh i am so sorry VM...know that you will in the moment know how to comfort and give love...in my thoughts today...

Jeff D'Antonio said...

" I am a firm believer that no parent should ever have to bury a child"

That. It's taken me 7 weeks and 6 blog posts to say that, and I never found words that summed it up so eloquently. Thanks for finding the words I couldn't.

Lisa Golden said...

That is so very hard. Your presence and support is the best thing you can offer.