4/26/13

Oh, and Bitchy? I thought saving my life was hard…..you’ve proven me wrong. (Yet again.)






I had some hopes that you would be in college forever.  That you would live down the street with your roommates, call me every other day and beg for food, ask me to do your laundry and we would see each other so much I would complain about it.



But life changes things, doesn’t it?


I called you this morning to congratulate you on your LAST day of college classes when the other students at my school were talking about it! I had forgotten!  Sure, you participated in the “five year program” thanks to your mother who insisted you major in chemistry (Didn’t the mom learn a lesson…) but the plan seems to have backfired.  You are now DONE.

However, the fact that you worked your ass off with two jobs while STILL maintaining a full time student status was not lost on me.  And while I won’t brag on Facebook and embarrass you to no end, words can’t adequately express how much I admire you. You are an amazing young woman.  

You’re my firstborn.  You’re my darling.  You’re my light and my life.   I am proud of everything you do, of who you are, and I embrace all that is good and adore all that is not. 


And when you told me you were leaving to move to Boulder for the summer, I told you how proud I was of you and how much I supported any decision you would make.



And then my heart stopped.



I know that our lives are changing; yet again. (And there is no turning back.)



I have known this day would come, and yet I am still not ready.  We have fought, screamed, laughed and cried.  We’ve been enemies and the very best of friends.  We have shared more than a mother and daughter should share, and are still standing and loving each other.


However, I want you to know this. 


I will support you, no matter what decisions you make- good or bad- because those decisions will make you who you are.  You have a journey, one you have to walk with confidence, courage and independence.  Be strong, be brave, listen to your heart and your fear; it will serve you well.


But I am here. As always, I will be right here for you.



Just try not to hurt yourself. PLEASE.    And always, ALWAYS trust your instincts. 








As much as I adore Dateline, I don’t ever, ever, EVER want to be ON it. 




16 comments:

Gigi said...

The fear that keeps me up at night - that he will move across country after graduation.

On the plus side, you get to visit a new place?

Japolina said...

What a sweet post. Congratulations to Bitchy (and to you!) Happy Graduation. I wish her all good things!

#1Nana said...

Good for her! And congratulations to you for helping her get to this point. My daughter is also a chemist.

ChiTown Girl said...

She's a stunner, that for sure.

Congrats on raising a full-fledged adult!

xoxox

Scope said...

Skydad lives just down the street from Boulder. You may need to start calling him "SPYDad" to keep an eye on her for you!

Formerly known as Frau said...

Congrats to your girl...you have taught her well and she has more life skills than most....let her fly! And in 4 years when I'm writing this exact post please help me with even wiser words!

Michele said...

Having had two boys grow up and leave the nest (WTH? I'm not that old) I can tell you that it gets easier and IM chat, skype and facetime will become your best friends.

Ryan James said...

That was so sweet!

SkylersDad said...

Pass out my contact info to her in case she needs some adult help.

Then I will try and find somebody around here who qualifies as an "adult"...

And you need to visit her so I can meet you!

noexcuses said...

Congrats to you both! It gets easier! Social media is the best!

Lisa Nolan said...

Reminds me of my college days! I never quite made it out of the San Francisco Bay Area, tho! I don't think my parents could have handled it, and me being the only child... it's a tough call!

Marissa said...

Congratulations Bitchy!

Two words--Google Earth.

And you forgot to tell her to watch out for logs.

But posts about milestones...they make me weepy. I held it together so my husband doesn't realize I'm reading your blog instead of working on my take home final (shhhh)

Mrs. E said...

Congrats to your girl! What a beautiful place to move!

One crazed mommy said...

Congratulations to your daughter on her new chapter beginning! It's hard watching our children get older, but what a jot it is to see them spread their wings and fly!

Cora said...

Oh nonononononono. I can't take the thought of it. Kids should never be allowed to go until WE are ready for it, dammit.

Unknown said...

Congratulations to the both of you! And, I can quite imagine what you're going through right now....