I’ve been fighting a battle for over 880 days. And while this battle isn’t one that
involves an enemy army bent on my destruction using swords or guns and probable
death, the scars and pain from each skirmish I’ve been in run deep, and will
most likely take years to recover from.
The hardest part of the battle is the knowledge that the shrapnel has
wounded those souls that I hold dearest in my heart; and that is just something
else I will have carry with me on this journey.
I’ve learned many things on this last particular leg of the
journey. Some of them have been very painful and heartbreaking, and others have been surprising and joyful. But the most important lesson I’ve
learned so far, I think, is that THIS is my life. The path I’m on this
minute is my life.
Not ten years from now, not five years from now, not one year
from now, and not even one month from now, but today; today is the day that I’ve been waiting for my whole life, and
it’s the one I need to make the most of.
I wake up in the morning and sometimes think to myself, “Jesus,
I wonder what’s gonna get thrown at me today?” And typically, it’s something big. No, it can’t be anything like a broken
nail, or a bad haircut, a poor grade on an exam, a lost dog or a pimple the
size of Montana. No, I have
discovered that the universe likes to reward my joyous nature with little
things like, oh let’s say a broken hip, a car that dies a horrible death, a tax man scaring the (@*# out of me, an exploding water heater, and an offer to
participate in the teacher relocation program. Oh sure, most of these have been blessings in disguise, but that’s
beside the point. (And yes, there are many more disasters packed into this life, but you get the picture.)
You know that I’ve always lived my life rolling with the
punches; finding ways to smile and laugh as one *&@$-storm after another
lands on my doorstep.
But I’m tired.
And on days when I’m tired I think of my mother. Today I thought of the poem that she
had framed and hung in the guest bathroom of every home we ever lived in. It was typed amateurishly on what must
have been white typing paper that had faded to a creamy yellow over the
years. The thin frame (from the
Goodwill, I’m sure) was originally painted white. It had cracked over the years, and she had added thin strips
of wallpaper from one of our old bathrooms around the edges to add a bit of
pizzazz. It always held a place of
prominence in bathroom, and I read it each and every time I sat down.
Just For Today
Just For Today I will live one day only, forgetting yesterday
and tomorrow, and not trying to solve the whole problem of life at once.
Just For Today I will be unafraid of life and death; unafraid to
enjoy the beautiful and be happy. People are as happy as they make up their
minds to be.
Just For Today I will adjust myself to what is, and try not to
make everything over to suit me. If I cannot have what I like, I will try to
like what I have.
Just For Today I will be agreeable, cheerful, charitable, do my
best, praise people for what they do, not criticize them for what they cannot
do; and if I find fault, I will forgive it and forget it. I will try not to
improve or regulate anybody except for myself.
Just For Today I will have a plan. I may not follow it exactly,
but I will have one. It will save me from worry, hurry and indecision.
Just For Today I will get off my nerves and not get on theirs. I
will appreciate them for what they do and what they are.
Just For Today I will not show it if my feelings are hurt.
Just For Today I will find a little time for quiet, to relax and
to realize what life is and can be, and get a better perspective of myself.
Just For Today I will look at life
with fresh eyes and discover the wonder of it; I will knw that as I give to the
world so the world will give to me.
And while these words remind me of an incredible mother, I hope
that I don’t get the opportunity to meet up with her anytime soon.
Cause this journey is just beginning to get interesting.
14 comments:
hugs VM
you are a survivor.
and even when we roll with them those punches hurt, even glancing blows...we cant pretend they don't...and we cant laugh them all off either...
breath deep. allow yourself to be.
enjoy the good in your life...and let someone carry your load a bit too.
you are a survivor.
Remember, things always look darkest just before they go completely black.
Wait, before the dawn. Yeah, that's it.
As a person who has a countdown clock on the side of his blog, I respect your war. Soldier on.
My favorite line from "Young Frankenstein": 'Could be worse--could be raining.' Seems like in your case, it's usually ALSO raining. Hang on, honey. It can only get better. It WILL.
You know--when my load seems too heavy, I think about my mom,too. She had things so hard and never once gave up. If she could carry on, then I guess I can, too.
Just remember life only has to be lived one day at time. One of my favorite quotes " Sometimes courage does not roar, but rather it is that quiet voice inside that states I will try again tomorrow. I sense that you are tired my old friend. So rest and if it gets too bad, just throw a cafeteria tray out of a window for old times sake. LOVE to you!!!!
"Cause this journey is just beginning to get interesting."
Amen.
No voting yourself off of the island...just keep building that shelter and wear some sunscreen when you race the sun.
Go buy yourself a Powerball ticket--sometimes karma needs to be dragged by the hand and shown what she needs to do to help us.
Dear Tired VM, You are doing such hard things and you continue to inspire as you do them. I love the poem your mom treasured. xo, Anna
I so love your Mama's poem. Life is never easy and some days we just have to tighten that strap on our hard hats to make it through the day. But in the end, we always make it, we always survive one way or another!
Take care my friend,
Sue
Ok pity party over, put your big girl panties on and your boots - cause you've got to wade through all the sh*t. Love ya
Dear Anonymous,
Thanks! I needed that. Kicking my own @$$ day, and smiling through it. Life IS damn good.
I agree with Anonymous, minus the big girl panties....instead, put the sexy panties on--that way, no matter what else you are wearing on the outside, you have an extra boost of confidence from wearing something cute and/or flirty.
(theory from a friend of mine)
I'm totally stealing your mom's beloved poem and posting it at my desk so I can see it every day.
Sending you many, many hugs - and, hopefully, boxtops soon.
Life is hard, life is stressful, life is by no means easy. I can share that with you 100% but there are good days and there are bad days. Yesterday was a bad day for me. Today is a bit better. We'll see what tomorrow holds - there is still too much time left in today to worry about that.
Buck up smile and ((HUGS))
I just saw a quote (somewhere on the internet) from Winston Churchill: "If you're going through hell, keep on going."
It's good to see your poem again too - I have seen it before (where???)
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